I just recently got married, I’m 25, very career oriented. Some people say it’s too early to get married at this age, but for me, it’s not about the age, it’s about choices you make. The choices you make in your life make up your future. When you make a certain choice, which affects some aspects in your life, it all boils down that you will ask yourself how you got to the point where you are now and what choices do you have now to get to the next point. I choose to be married at this age although it felt like in some way it was mandatory but I wanted to be married. That was my choice.
Marriage, as they say is a bond between two people who choose to legally be with one another and to be there for each other and become lifetime partners. When you get married, you have so many things to go through, there’s this seminar for the couple, get the marriage license, then the whole wedding preparation, and then on the big day, you get to sign your marriage contract. Well the marriage process I went through was way more complicated and so many papers and documents to be submitted and processed. Phew!!! No one would probably believe me if I tell them the whole story.

Anyway, back to the main topic, if one chooses to leave, legally he/she can just get a lawyer and have papers signed, that’s where divorce or annulment or legal separation comes into the picture. Still we’re dealing with more papers, papers, papers…
Most of my friends said that they love being married, just because everything is legal.
I’m 4 months married now and nothing really changed, everything is just the same and it doesn’t really feel like I’m married but I don’t really know how it really feels like since I was never married before. Maybe for now I can just say marriage is just paper but one of these days or someday I might really feel what marriage is really about. It’s probably too early to say that nothing really changed or maybe changes are already present, I just really didn’t notice it.

I am almost near my EDD (expected due date), 6 weeks from now I will get to see my little angel. Since this is my first pregnancy, I am excited but at the same time I am very scared. Most first time mothers I’ve talked to did say it does hurt but then will say it’s all worth it. I’m sure it’s all worth the pain. It’s been one hell of a ride for the last 7months and a half. A lot of changes happened with me and my body, especially with my mood. As a first time mother, I really don’t know what to expect.

I’ve read a lot of articles about pregnancy, its stages, everything from conception to giving birth. What really scares me more are the contractions that most mother’s say are really taunting. My biggest fear is not really the giving birth part, but being an official mother of a beautiful baby girl. What if I won’t be able to give her all the things she wanted? What if I won’t be a good mother? There are a lot of questions I ask myself and I really don’t know what to do with them that’s why I always ask advice from my mom and my grandmother since they are experts in this area.

My grandmother had 10 children, one died while she was 7 months under the care of a babysitter. My grandma told me all the stories about how she gave birth to each one of them, especially the part with how she gave birth to my mom. Those were hard times and the hospitals were far from where she lived so they all entrusted a midwife to help her with the delivery. Comparing it to the evolution of the technology now, hospitals are already using hi-technology equipment for everything. It’s much convenient to give birth in the hospitals but solely very much way expensive than the traditional type. There’s already a painless delivery called epidural, which they will inject something at the back of the pregnant patient. It does cost you but everyone I know said if you don’t want pain; it’s a one to take. According to some definitions, “an epidural is a form of regional anesthesia involving injection of drugs through a catheter placed into the epidural space. The injection can cause both a loss of sensation (anaesthesia) and a loss of pain (analgesia), by blocking the transmission of signals through nerves in or near the spinal cord.” Well that’s a bit scary though, never tried one before, and now I have these questions in my head, what if they inject it by mistake, or what if the nurse who injected this drug is a newbie. Oh, so many scary images come rushing through my brains. I guess it’s normal for a first time mom to be. I’ll probably stick to the traditional way of giving birth, the normal way, no C-Section, no epidural, just the classic normal style. We’ll see in 6 weeks.